Lately, I've been delving into the causes for my fetishes and self-discipline hardships. I stumbled upon a book ( https://www.amazon.com/Running-Empty-Overcome-Childhood-Emotional/dp/161448242X ) and so far the explanations offered really match with how I feel / felt.

To confirm this link, I'll ask you, fellow gurochanners:

Have you been neglected (physically or emotionally) by your parents?