>>4198
I'm glad it's helping. The "no expectations" rule has helped me on multiple occasions.

My partner and I have both had some problems giving/receiving oral (long story), but we've talked before diving in to an evening and done things like, no expectation to stay hard or cum (went limp once or two but got back up each time and came), no expectation that oral needs to be the thing that finishes us (sometimes it wasn't but often was), no expectaiton on how long it has to last (sometimes a jaw or tongue got tired, but took a break and got back to it later), or what ever. I may not be explaining well enough, but hopfully you get the idea.

Again, glad the advice is helping.

>>4192
As for avoiding porn, maybe if you're good at holding fantasies in your head as you fondle and fuck, but avoiding porn entirely seems to help re-sensitize to not-so-extreme things. It's something I've done and it was very successful. Having porn on hand has made it hard to get/stay arouse while not looking at it, so I think it's best to avoid it sometimes.

My partner and I also sometimes have nights where we watch porn together. Depending on the mood we'll watch something together and get in to things, or we'll watch our own things on our computers while watching each other enjoy ourselves. There's a lot you can do with the idea.