They don't, I like pain because I'm a sadomaso and it turns me on. I don't have any self-hate and I like myself.

I wouldn't even describe my masochistic desires as self harm. I don't view it as harming myself. I view it as pleasurable kinky fun. I have no desire to be harmed, I have desire for painful and humiliating things, because they feel so good and sexy.

It's an interesting figure of speech, self harm, it sounds like something some prude would say. Lol, didn't religious idiots call masturbation "self harm"? In fact I remember that they did do that. I'd rather have it called torture fantasies or masochistic fantasies.

There's probably a fundamental difference between us. For you this is self harm, and a way to release stress and you blame yourself for weakness or something. For me this is a form of masochistic pleasure, something I fully accept, a kinky game to make myself feel good because I deserve the best. A bit of it is also sadism, I get some sadistic pleasure from doing painful things to myself, as well as masochistic pleasure. But it all centers around me liking myself and doing fun, nice things to myself. The sort of pleasures which a lot of other people simply can't comprehend, the pleasure of pain.