There are men that want to own, and women that want to be owned.
There are women that want to own, and men that want to be owned.

There are men who want to own men.
There are women who want to own women.

There are more.

I'm not interested in what all are most individuals want, rather I'm interested in all people being able to play the role they want.

Furthermore, I sometimes get to know someone and want to say "this is a woman who wants to be owned, but she doesn't know how to say it, or she doesn't know that about herself." But I don't have authority in other peoples wants, I don't have agency in what people think about themselves or the world. It's not my place to say-- and as a man who wants to own, seeing women as wanting to be owned is far to convenient. I won't be convinced that the world is by chance exactly the way I would like it, especially because I don't need the whole world to be exactly the way I would like it. If 1/1000 people are compatible with me, that's more than enough. And so part of finding people in the roles I'd like to play with is finding people mature enough to know what they want, or open minded enough to be guided there with some caution and grains of salt.

We can decide that our brains are predisposed to ownership and violence, and to some extent I'm sure there's truth in that. But I don't like the thought that as "guro fans" or as "dominate males," we are somehow above the rest of society. I don't like the thought that we're better because we're in touch with the older part of our brains. I dislike the thought that our feelings come from natural laws and so therefore we're the normal and society is the unnautral.

I've heard the same from child molesters, murderers, and religious zealots. "We are the repressed minority following the natural truths."

Just be weird and go about your day. Nobody will notice, nobody important will care.