Back when I was a teenager, I used to feel really bad about it. I'd watch TV shows like Criminal Minds and Law & Order and think that because I have these desires it must mean that I'm secretly a homicidal maniac or a rapist or something.

The more I learned about my own sexuality the more I learned that the most important part of my desire is the consentual nature of what I enjoy. I'm not a fan of rape, I find it to be generally disgusting and undesirable. It doesn't turn me on. Once I learned that about myself, I was able to start the process of accepting myself as not a murderer in waiting, but someone who just finds women to be extremely erotic in dangerous situations.

That probably doesn't help you too much, unless you have a kink like mine.