I would say that my situation is the exact opposite of neglect up to the level where I even envy those who were neglected.

I don't know what is written in that book, but I judging by your description and its name I think it may be at least by some degree incorrect.
You can't complain about your past because this is whast made you who you are now, If something was different you would be different as well and have a different kind of problems and benefits.
Sometimes I think how it would all be if my life went in a different way and I would have something that now I can only dream about but at the same time, I would not have what now is totally natural and it is hard to tell what would be better.

I believe much more important factor is not how you were treated by your parents but what relationships you had with other children and society in general. Your parents may be only important in very early childhood when you have no other friends and for setting your environment where you will be forced to live and what people you will meet.