More likely explanation is this oglaf.com/submission/

there is a considerable difference between fantasy victim and the real victim, you do not surrender your life it is more like the total opposite.

Victim fantasies normally revolve around the attacker being focused on the victim what implies that victim is in control because if you make someone think about you are the winner it does not matter what other people think about you as long as they think something.

the main point of your idea is this: "gives meaning to my life"
when you are dom you are a God who gives meaning to other people while your own existence is meaningless, you have no duties no goals just meaningless existence where you do some random things that make you feel good.

If you are not a godlike personality you do not really have what to surrender, as you already act in someones else interest and follow some external goals so you can only desire that someone will take you and find some use for you.

so in the summary main reason for being the victim is a desire to have a meaning and to get an attention

I am more interested in attention and superiority but not so much in the meaning. Strangely enough, I also may enjoy being the victim if I know that attacker will not be able to harm me for real so I can show my superiority even then by allowing it to do whatever it likes and being unable to do anything to me.