Okay Onix, I will offer one last attempt. I will offer an analogy that might help:

There are two women in a department store. Both are white. Both have adopted sons. The first woman has an adopted son that is black. The second has an adopted son that is white.

Both children start throwing massive tantrums.

A duchebag goes up to the woman with the little black boy and says, "Ma`am, could you please silence your dependant. "

The woman looks at him funny, "You mean my son?"

The man says, "No ma'am, he is clearly not your son. You are white, he is black. Genetically and biologically you are absolutely not his mother. You are his guardian, and the sooner you come to terms with that the happier you will both be. Now silence him or get out."

He then turns to the other woman and makes the same request, "Ma'am, could you please silence your son?"

Duchebag does not realize her son is adopted. He has assumed all adopted children would look nothing like their mothers and so has not bothered to use the term "dependant".

The women may not be genetically or biologically their mothers, but they know how they love and care for their sons. They have taken on the role and the label of "mother" because that is how they feel. They love those boys as though they were truly their birth mother. They can't do anything to fix the fact that genetically they are not related to the boys. But it doesn't matter and it shouldn't.

In this day and age, that scenario may seem strange. But in the not so distant past, that dialogue may have played out as there were plenty of racist individuals who would have frowned upon or looked down at the mother who adopted the black boy.

But times have changed. Mothers are mothers regardless of whether they gave birth or adopted and regardless of the race of the child they call their own. And in society, that is respected.

We want the same respect. We don't want "special" treatment. We want equal treatment.