From what I read lurkin on 4chan's /d/, they see this site as more hardcore, but I didn't encounter any hate or ostracism.
Don't know about other boards though.

I don't like, when people assume we are freaks and psychos. Fetishes are like everything else-they don't shape you, unless you allow them to.
One can argue artistic depictions of violence are even less shocking or disturbing than kind of socially accepted real life BDSM, because no one is actually getting hurt for our amusement.