I'm not so sure most people know we exist.

I've confessed my fetish to a hand full of friends (yeah, I don't know, bad idea?)... not in great detail, but "enough." I'd lead with "my fetishes are fucked up," and they'd shrug it off and I'd reiterate, "no, you don't understand...

And your average vanilla person is gonna think, okay maybe BDSM, maybe some emphasis on the S&M. And you tell them "It's stuff you probably couldn't or shouldn't do IRL," and they'll think of some of the crazy stuff on deviantArt like inflation, and you say "guro" and they say what, "like, gore, but eroticized." Suffice to say, you end up having to explain it.

If they respect you enough, it's "okay, i accept you, it's just not my thing." Or they try to pretend it's not so bad until you show them some shit and then, "Okay yeah no."

Presumably, most people, IF they knew about us, wouldn't like us very much. Fortunately, most seem to try not to even think that people like us exist. It's like having a rape fetish. It's insanely common, yet I tell someone about it and "wait, so I'm worried about you, are you actually gonna try to go out and, you know...get...you know, raped?"

People really don't get it.