Thing with childhood and fetishes is like chicken vs egg scenario. For me it seems, like I've always enjoyed women in peril. Even before my childhood turned to shit. But I can't be sure. I know everything I like now is just variation of things, that always turned me on. Guro is just different kind of peril, humiliation, powerlessness, which my sadistic side like. Fem dom, female pov, strap on role play etc are hot because of my guilt, but also I remember even in my pre-teens I wanted to obey, and be treated like dirt, by some pretty girl.
But again, those fetishes could be a derivative of my childhood suffering. Sadism extracted from my anger, and masochism come to life as a cope mechanism.
Even my newfound interest in shota comes from my childhood, and is based on humiliation, as I was dreaming about being sexually abused by young adult women, when I was horny little kid. Yes, there are stuff with shotas dominating over women, and I like that very much, because it's super humiliating for female, so it's pleasing for the other side of the spectrum.

I'm very empathic, but I can't do this. My gf like risky sex in public, but it's impossible for me, to feel the same. I don't find that appealing at all. If something isn't connected to my initial kinks, I can't find that hot.
Were you able to do 180 degrees spin with empathy about something fundamental, basic?

>>Sending staff to bf/gf at this age also should be sort of illegal. You don't know what you are doing, when you are 13. I'm not talking about sending horny kids to jail, but some kind re-educastion about sex, privacy and responsibility.

No, no, you got it all wrong:).
I'm not against sex at that age. I'm against doing it irresponsibly. Use condoms, don't do things your partner doesn't want you to do, don't record with hidden cam, remember it's something special, and you should treat this that way. Apart from that - do whatever you want.

Are children should be told to do sex? I don't think so. But only because it could indirectly force someone to having sex, despite for him/her being not ready. It should be own choice. Without shaming and passive-aggression.
Kids should be presented with objective facts, necessary knowledge and free choice to have or have not sex as they please.

Law and mojority society are always behind progress.