When I think about hurting the people I know, the fantasies aren't elaborate guro-themed wank fantasies. They're simple and direct, realistic ideas that I could conceivably implement in real life. Locking the relative in a room and burning the house down around her, following the coworker home and stabbing him to death from behind, etc.

The crazy shit where I torture/rape people and their loved ones tends to be motivated more by my frustration with certain types of people, particularly people in positions of power. e.g. it's been a recurring fantasy of mine to pick some publicly traded corporations and start selecting shareholders at random to torture to death on camera, then post the footage online, making it clear that I'm targeting shareholders of those companies. And there are other fantasies like that would involve corporate executives, government officials, etc.