>>7924 >>7928

I think you may be confusing your fantasies with reality. Plenty of women are dominant and into guro, they're just likely to post here (compared to lurking, even!) because guys like you seem to legitimately think that women are aliens with no sex drives and similar things that are just not even close to reality. Mostly because of cultural stuff, women are more likely to read/write erotica than men are, and if you go on fanfiction sites, you'll find a lot of M/M guro and other kinky things and much of it is written by women. (The numbers aren't going to exactly match, but that would be the format difference, not the gender difference. Someone could look at several dozen pictures in the time it would take them to read 2000 words, a fairly average length for a "PWP" fic.) I'd say you're missing out if you're not reading that stuff, but I'm aware that not everyone is bi.

It's entirely possible that you, personally, are striking out a lot and/or tend to find partners that don't want to dominate you, or simply get off on the idea of fucking women who don't want you, but it's ridiculous to act like that's universal. Just logic, for a second. Even just within our culture--and there's like, 8 billion people in the world, about 2.5 billion of which are grown women? It would be really weird if there weren't some variety.

I mean, seriously, what site are we on? It's proof that what people get off to varies really widely, and the fact is, humans as a species just don't have the level of sexual dimorphism that could cause one sex to have the ability to be turned on by literally anything and the other to pretty much be entirely asexual. There might be some difference between the curves, but there's going to be a lot more overlap.

>>7927 I think it's less that there's actually more variety in female sexuality compared to men's as that women are slightly less discouraged from questioning their sexuality. Gender roles for men's sexual behavior are pretty strict and there can be lots of violence for not doing gender right (such as not being straight or seeming uninterested in women, wearing "girly" clothing, being sexually submissive, having a smaller penis or cumming "too quickly"), so guys that don't fit those roles are more likely to just bottle up their anxiety and not talk about it. Gender roles for women are a little more flexible in some ways, which is actually because there's this subliminal cultural perception that femininity is inferior--it's "understandable" and "practical" if a woman behaves or dresses in "masculine" ways (and, in fact, a lot of "feminine" behavior and clothing is deliberately impractical, like high heels or pants with tiny pockets), but it's just fucking baffling to a lot of people if someone who "naturally" has masculinity wants to "give it up." So there's just a little more wiggle room for women to question things. Only a little--people do flip out at women who actually look dykey--but enough that it's a little easier to ask those questions in the first place, especially when even a heterosexual woman is likely to be looked down on for having any sexuality at all.

And anyway, at this point in history, at least half the reason defined gender roles still exist is so companies can sell things and often mark up the price on the things for "women" while making them lower quality, and to distract people from how rich people are hoarding money and underpaying workers and ruining the planet. (And also something about trying to get middle-class women to leave the workforce after WWII so there wouldn't be a veteran unemployment crisis.) With current levels of technology, most evolutionary reasons for gender roles have ceased to exist, and they're mostly just artifacts. You still have people being raised in what's basically two intermeshed cultures, and that's gender, but apart from relatively minor phenotypic differences (that are admittedly given extremely major cultural significance), people are people.

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Like, I actually don't want to get into a fight, it's just completely counter to reality to say women don't want sex or aren't kinky or dominant or whatever, or for that matter to act like men always want sex or particular kinds of sex, and also sex/gender differences are really considerably less of a biological thing than most people think.