alright, let's nail this thing down lol

Women enjoy good sex, yes? The female orgasm is on par with the male orgasm, yes? Our question, in this discussion, is "do women NEED it." Yes?

Do women feel an ITCH that INTRUDES into their life and DEMANDS to be scratched? This is our focus. This is how you, personally, have been defining the words "sexual" and "asexual." Yes?

We agree that, at the starting line, women skew toward having a weaker INNATE itch than men. The female "innate itch" bell curve skews weaker than the male bell curve. I believe we agree on this - though we might disagree on the extent of skew

I hypothesize an "acquired itch" on top of the innate itch. I say women can "get a taste for it."

I base this hypothesis on my personal experiences dating women, on the studies and anecdotes I have read, and on my understanding that women's sexualities TEND TO BE (again, bell curves) more mental than men's, more situational and emotional, less visual, less CENTERED on the anatomical features of the opposite sex (although those features still matter). Women are bigger fans of erotic fiction than men, for example.

the acquired itch arises from a woman's malleable relationship with her sexuality, her body, her partner(s), and her culture. A woman can "get to know herself" and become more sexual, either through solo experimentation or through experience with partners, possibly until she reaches some biological ceiling unique to her genetics and hormones. Various regional barriers to this process will result in a less "itchy" population of women. Compare Macau to the US.

> if there is no warming up, then there is no interest

there is still the desire to GET warmed up. I add this on top of what I said above.

Sexual desire consists of multiple components. Some can be present while others are not.

> wife sharing in olden times

You are talking about hunter-gatherers. Hunter gatherers have no personal wealth or inheritance.

> FGM does not make sex painful

you may be right about this. Looked at some studies, and "feeling nothing" is reported much more often than painful sex

still, your overall theory - that FGM exists because high-value men do not want to fuck their wives - is 100% insane. In such cultures the wife's desires, or lack of them, do not affect the husband one way or another. He can choose not to fuck her even if she's still got a clit. What does he care? The purpose of destroying a woman's pleasure and her sexual agency is not to spare her husband the burden of fucking her. The purpose is to ensure that she belongs to him.