>> desire to get warmed up is not sex drive

address the bulk of the comment Onix. the "acquired sex drive."

>> assumptions about ex-girlfriend who slapped my ass

people with a simplistic understanding of human nature always think they understand someone from a brief description

> stifles male libido much more than female libido

you're using stifle to mean "prevent from acting upon," not "prevent from feeling."

i'm saying patriarchal cultures are deeply unsexy to women. women end up in unrewarding relationships, enduring bad sex with men who only focus on themselves.

patriarchal cultures aren't unsexy to men. in fact the objectification of women makes men more sexually frustrated. all around you, hot objects to fuck, but you are not allowed to fuck them unless they consent, and because you view them as objects and your culture has no sense of romance or seduction you are bad at getting them to consent, and because your culture is unsexy to women they are not that intent on finding a man, so you are constricted at both ends.

>> high value men are not interested in sex

both japan and europe made an effort to uphold this illusion for a while, at least in the upper classes. really it was not disinterest in sex, it was scorn for women, and scorn for the power of women's sex appeal to sway men. the suppressed sexual urges still bubbled up in other ways. men found their outlets one way or another. raping the maid when the wife was away, visiting prostitutes, more civilized men would see mistresses on the side, etc.

>> inheritance only applies to aristocracy

over-generalizes european and japanese medieval feudalism to the rest of the world. peasants in many times and places did inherit property. FGM developed in africa, not europe or japan, and in many regions of africa the rural poor have historically owned land and cattle. i agree though that inheritance is not the only reason men have sought to control women and female sexuality.

this article is an interesting read, wikipedia links to it: https://web.archive.org/web/20131029210333/http://www.polisci.ucsd.edu/~gmackie/documents/BeginningOfEndMackie2000.pdf

> porn addiction is actually edging addiction

i think this is obviously not true. before the internet, was masturbation addiction as common as porn addiction is now?

also, about porn and dopamine:
https://www.nature.com/articles/npp201778
https://www.nature.com/articles/npp201219

> women are passive

i think this is your central contention. "women are asexual" is an auxiliary point

i don't feel like responding to this yet but i'll write one later. i don't expect to change your mind though