I've read the thread completely now and I think that beside the fact that it's meanwhile far away from the OP's question it became much more interesting than any answer to that question.

IMHO Onix and sage present a lot of good points. Unfortunately I must agree with sage that at this moment
>it's too much of a "who's right" contest.
There is no exact "right" or "wrong". Culture, education, experience and other influences form our thinking, behaviour, likes and dislikes - and of course our kinks. May I recommend to keep this in mind, while you continue your exchange of arguments?

One thing I'd like to add concerning the female genital mutilation. Please consider the fact that in most cases this cruelty is done by (old) women to little girls on behalf of the girls' mothers. These girls for sure have none of the intents you are talking of.