>>1588

>in that situation it is more like a friendly competition
Oh, what a wonderful world it would be, if all disputs were like this. :))
But culture of debate can be helpful in all situations where different opinions clash together. Its a kind of Geneva Convention for talking.

>when she grows up
As I said, adults act like you describe it. When the time comes for their daughters, they are already shaped by the traditions of the "tribe". With that constant pressure they don't question it anymore.

>sexuality at the time when a girl is just a baby
A very common belief is, that children have no sexuality. And if they show some, they are bad, because they are not allowed to have some. This is often influenced by religion and it might be the reason, why the mutilation is done to kids and it is not waited until they can decide themself.

>choice to be a slut or a housewife
Hey, there are a lot more shades of grey! ;)
Feeling sexual pleasure does not mean you are a slut. Well, it should not. In some communities the border is very small and extremely shifted to one side. In this context you are right.

>different ... situation ... be ballerina or pianist
There is a big difference. In one case somthing is irreversibly destructed, in the other case something is build up. Yes, you will say the psyche of the kid is harmed. This can happen, but it also can be healed - admittedly, except for very extreme treatments. A circumcision can be reconstruced optically, but the tactile sensation is gone forever.