>>1605
No, you just don't get what I am trying to say: as children, I and my mother were forced to do and learn things we absolutely did not want or need. But later we sort of changed our opinion about the usefulness of that. Yes it was not always completely pointless work but it was torture.

Same as about that FGM where woman to whom it was done eventually does not complain about what was done to her because it happens to be useful after all.

Yes in my situation I am still angry about what I was forced to do but my mother is totally fine with all that and does not complain that she was forced to go to musical school and even say that the punishments she received from her mother were right.

As for ability to complain here I actually learned english language pretty much all by myself, what I was told in school was absolutely worthless.