The human brain is more inscrutable than the paths of "that higher Being Whom we revere"(*).
Anonymous ( >>15478 ) gave a very good description of the processes influencing the brain. For example, I have only a glimpse of a clue why I like Dolcett and I would always eat out a loli, but I would never ever eat her up. Don't bother with your fantasies, just keep them apart from reality. Don't spend your money on a therapy but on a nice dinner with your girlfriend (you know, the ordinary type in an ordinary diner ;)).

(*) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murke's_Collected_Silences