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She seems/acts submissive/neutral though (but maybe sexually she is a dom who knows), and she doesn't seem to hate men, or at least she doesn't hate me (even texts me first sometimes). We feel a lot more like equals than leading man and following woman, which I'm honestly fine with.

Also after 2 weeks from when I first met her she told me she was lesbian and that she didn't want to give me any wrong impressions of flirting or something because she knows shes socially awkward sometimes.
I just kept my cool and said that's fine
and brought up stories of how I had dated a girl who thought she was trans and wasn't (which she connected with because she was the same) and a girl that thought she lesbian but then dated me. Then, she brought up how she's only gone out with one girl but the relationship failed pretty quickly.

Also, I am growing out my hair so I'm hoping that makes me more feminine looking??

I'd say I dress in a slightly artsy way, think UNIQLO-core tiktok-lite fashion and sometimes wear a pendant. I don't think I'm ugly because I've dated a lot of girls, but I'm definitely not attractive enough for someone to say "Nah dude, you're definitely attractive." I feel more like I just don't have any outstanding bad features.

In short, I'm betting more on becoming her friend and getting her comfortable/emotionally attached and then she'll translate some of that into physical affection because she has never had any male relationships. (Also she used to be trans but then realized she was fine with being a girl, and that she did not have to be trans to express her masc side or something like that. She never went on HRT and realized it was actually dangerous and that big pharma lied about its safety and would shill it because $$$.)

And she really likes death metal and we both knew about Burzum so we connected over that, she disagrees with Vargs opinions but she does have nuance with politics, I convinced her that RFK jr. was pretty rational and not an anti-vaxx freak, and she doesn't trust big pharma due to the aforementioned HRT stuff.