I could believe men might average a somewhat higher drive (not orders of magnitude lmao), but we would need to disentangle other factors, like men being more aggressive, the pursuer/pursued dynamic, and female sex drive being more emotional and more malleable to outside factors. trans people who have been on hrt for a year or two and have stabilized will often say their sex drive is comparable in strength but different in character. you can find this on reddit.

https://sci-hub.hkvisa.net/10.1016/j.jsxm.2019.12.020