>>16744
I feel this way too a lot, I like a lot of manipulation stuff as well and con non con, and every time I talk about what I enjoy I get some conversation about how gaslighting is never consensual, my solution to that has been to just not care and drop out of the kink scene, manipulation isn't illegal regardless of consent so I'll just accept being the bad guy as the price for being myself

For guro it's a little different though, it's at least 70% fantasy, once people like me enough I tell them and they're not really going to randomly hate me for it usually because I don't become friends with the kind of people who do that